Emotions: Who Got the Juice?

By: Rachel Gonzalez

In your feelings is probably one of the most dangerous places to be. 

We always hear people say how women and girls (especially teen girls) are so super emotional. And for a long time, I took offense to this. But then I realized there really wasn’t any reason to be mad about it. Because it’s true. We are really emotional. The truth is that the only reason I felt bad about it or saw this an insult is because that’s how we are made to feel about it – mostly by guys. Don’t get it twisted, this isn’t about to be a male-bashing blog post. I came here to speak the truth, the whole truth and only the truth. So guys if you’re reading this, just relax and try to hear me out. 

When women are seen as more emotional, I think we are being judged too hard about it. I also think that it depends on what emotion is being discussed. So yes, we may cry easier, we may fall in love faster, we may even get insecure sometimes and stalk you on social media because you said you were going to bed at 9:30pm, but here it is, 11:30pm and you’re still on Facebook posting memes and responding to comments on your last post. But that’s beside the point…

What I’m saying is that yes, we may express certain kinds of emotions more than guys do, but let me ask you this…have you ever been around a guy who loves sports when it’s down to the last 12 seconds of the 4th quarter of a basketball game, when both teams have no more time outs and the team they hate is up by 3 points? The shot clock is down to 6 seconds and just when they think there’s no way that their team can come back from this, someone throws the ball up from half court, right at the buzzer and makes the shot *swish*. If you have never been around a sports-loving guy when this kind of moment happens, let me tell you, between all the clapping, yelling and screaming, this my friends is him being very very emotional. 

My point here is, if you are going to call someone emotional, or even worse, stereotype an ENTIRE gender as being too emotional, I think it’s only fair to take into consideration all of the emotions that exist and not just the ones that might get on your nerves. And also let me say this: a lot of this crap about women being so emotional is because of society. It has nothing to do with us! We didn’t make the rules!  In my opinion, we are all born with the same set of emotions which means we all experience the same emotions, but from a very young age, we are taught to express them differently. Let me explain what I mean:

In most (not all) cases, if a little boy falls down he is told to get up and to be tough and not to cry. But when little girls fall down, we are allowed to cry and everybody comes to check on us,, and depending on the situation, we sometimes even get something out of the situation –  like some candy or a juice box. And I sure do love me a good juice box! 

Now, I completely believe that when the little boy fell, he experienced the same physical pain as the little girl, but the responses from the grown-ups to each of them are what makes the difference. And these types of responses teach us, from very early ages, that the way boys and girls express certain emotions should be different. And personally, I think that sucks! Little boys should be allowed to cry and experience and express their pain in the same way we get to do it as girls. There shouldn’t be any difference in the way we are treated. Boys like juice boxes too! The problem is that these types of lessons don’t just stop when we are young. We get these lessons all throughout life and then we end up having these crazy expectations of each other that are all based on stuff we learned before we were ever able to make our own decisions or have our own ideas about certain things. 

So guys, next time you want to talk about how emotional we are, remember it’s not our fault. And instead of getting mad at us about it, blame society. Societal rules and expectations are what have screwed up just about everything else in the world, so adding one more thing to the list shouldn’t really be a big deal. 

And girls, next time your dad, or your brother or your boyfriend seems to be having a tough day and having a hard time expressing himself emotionally, give him a hug and hand him a juice box. This might just be the type of thing that needs to happen in order for us to be a much kinder and gentler world!


The Thoughts of a Bookless Author

By: Nicole Clanton

So I finally turned 19 this year and I was really excited of course because I mean…who doesn’t want to be 19! When I was younger I always thought to myself “I’m gonna write a book about my life and I’m going to publish it when I’m 18 years old and it’s going to be a best seller and everyone is going to love it”.

I felt like this was a really great idea and I was completely down for it until I realized how hard it is to actually write a book! For some reason when I was younger, I guess I felt like the words to this best selling book were just going to jump out of my head and onto the pages and I would instantly become some modern day Maya Angelou or something. Clearly that didn’t happen. These days I’m lucky if I can figure out what I want to say in a text message! Never mind writing a book.

The other thing that kinda steered me away from writing a book was the stories that I would share. Even though most people would still consider me pretty young, I have had a lot of experiences that people probably wouldn’t guess by just looking at me. I have had a good amount of happy times, but I have also had some hard times that made me really strong and that taught me a lot about life and about myself. The thing that makes me nervous about sharing some of these stories in my book was how the people in my life who were involved in my stories would feel once my book became a best seller and everybody read it.

For example, I would want to include the story about my prom and how I should have been voted prom queen that night. And how even though I hugged and congratulated the girl who got picked, I was low-key being a hater on the inside because I felt like it should have been me. And before you go getting all crazy, I wasn’t the only person who thought I should have been prom queen! All my friends did too! But because I didn’t want to seem like a sore loser, I made sure to hug and smile with the girl who got chosen. And I even took pictures with her once they gave her the crown…my crown!

The point here is, what if the girl who actually got picked as prom queen read my book? Well, she would definitely end up reading it because it would be a best seller. And everybody likes to read a good best seller. But anyway, what would happen when she read my book and she got to the part about me being secretly mad that she got picked and I didn’t? That would be awkward. And that awkward moment would lead to a series of events that I really just would not want to deal with. She would read it and tell all her friends to read it (well, that part wouldn’t be so bad because her making her friends get copies and read it would just be helping my sales and keep me on the best seller list longer). But she would be upset and try to contact me on my Snap. She would probably ask me a whole bunch of questions. She would probably ask me why I didn’t tell her how I really felt at the time. I would have to come up with some clever answer. And it would really just be too many things to deal with. And this is just an example of what I would have to go through for that ONE pretty minor situation. What would happen when I got to the really juicy stuff? The thought alone of feeling like I would have to explain everything to everybody is already too stressful and I haven’t even started writing the book yet! You feel me?

So these are a few of the reasons why I don’t really want to write a book. At least not right now. I’m sure there will come a time when I care a lot less about what anyone would have to say, and I will be able to speak my truth and not worry about the opinions of anyone else. I don’t know what age that will be but I’m looking forward to when it happens. Maybe by then the book will make so much money (because it will be a best seller, of course) that  if anyone actually does get offended by something in the book, I will be able to take them out to a nice dinner, hear what they have to say, and then tell them how much I don’t really care because my experiences are mine and they are beautiful and I want to share them with the world.

Oh and don’t worry, if you are close enough to me to make it into my book, I will change your name so that no one will know who you are except me and you! That way, as long as you don’t make a big fuss about anything, no one would ever be able to even figure anything out! You’re welcome!