By: Rachel Gonzalez
In your feelings is probably one of the most dangerous places to be.
We always hear people say how women and girls (especially teen girls) are so super emotional. And for a long time, I took offense to this. But then I realized there really wasn’t any reason to be mad about it. Because it’s true. We are really emotional. The truth is that the only reason I felt bad about it or saw this an insult is because that’s how we are made to feel about it – mostly by guys. Don’t get it twisted, this isn’t about to be a male-bashing blog post. I came here to speak the truth, the whole truth and only the truth. So guys if you’re reading this, just relax and try to hear me out.
When women are seen as more emotional, I think we are being judged too hard about it. I also think that it depends on what emotion is being discussed. So yes, we may cry easier, we may fall in love faster, we may even get insecure sometimes and stalk you on social media because you said you were going to bed at 9:30pm, but here it is, 11:30pm and you’re still on Facebook posting memes and responding to comments on your last post. But that’s beside the point…
What I’m saying is that yes, we may express certain kinds of emotions more than guys do, but let me ask you this…have you ever been around a guy who loves sports when it’s down to the last 12 seconds of the 4th quarter of a basketball game, when both teams have no more time outs and the team they hate is up by 3 points? The shot clock is down to 6 seconds and just when they think there’s no way that their team can come back from this, someone throws the ball up from half court, right at the buzzer and makes the shot *swish*. If you have never been around a sports-loving guy when this kind of moment happens, let me tell you, between all the clapping, yelling and screaming, this my friends is him being very very emotional.
My point here is, if you are going to call someone emotional, or even worse, stereotype an ENTIRE gender as being too emotional, I think it’s only fair to take into consideration all of the emotions that exist and not just the ones that might get on your nerves. And also let me say this: a lot of this crap about women being so emotional is because of society. It has nothing to do with us! We didn’t make the rules! In my opinion, we are all born with the same set of emotions which means we all experience the same emotions, but from a very young age, we are taught to express them differently. Let me explain what I mean:
In most (not all) cases, if a little boy falls down he is told to get up and to be tough and not to cry. But when little girls fall down, we are allowed to cry and everybody comes to check on us,, and depending on the situation, we sometimes even get something out of the situation – like some candy or a juice box. And I sure do love me a good juice box!
Now, I completely believe that when the little boy fell, he experienced the same physical pain as the little girl, but the responses from the grown-ups to each of them are what makes the difference. And these types of responses teach us, from very early ages, that the way boys and girls express certain emotions should be different. And personally, I think that sucks! Little boys should be allowed to cry and experience and express their pain in the same way we get to do it as girls. There shouldn’t be any difference in the way we are treated. Boys like juice boxes too! The problem is that these types of lessons don’t just stop when we are young. We get these lessons all throughout life and then we end up having these crazy expectations of each other that are all based on stuff we learned before we were ever able to make our own decisions or have our own ideas about certain things.
So guys, next time you want to talk about how emotional we are, remember it’s not our fault. And instead of getting mad at us about it, blame society. Societal rules and expectations are what have screwed up just about everything else in the world, so adding one more thing to the list shouldn’t really be a big deal.
And girls, next time your dad, or your brother or your boyfriend seems to be having a tough day and having a hard time expressing himself emotionally, give him a hug and hand him a juice box. This might just be the type of thing that needs to happen in order for us to be a much kinder and gentler world!